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  1. Vgr said:

    I am right there with u! I too am an introvert. As I have become older I have had to adapt to being more of an extrovert but simply saying hi is a Hugh deal in my customer service job! Thank you for sharing your art work. I think it is great :)

    January 3, 2012
    • aparchedsoul said:

      Thank you for sharing. I'm glad you like my art work!

      January 3, 2012
  2. said:

    I don't adlib well either. I often feel very slow in talking with others and by the time I process what has been said it can be a long time after the initial conversation. It feels weird that I can be open to taking in so much information and also feel that I am not spontaneous at the same time.

    I like your art work. I am an artist as well.

    January 3, 2012
    • aparchedsoul said:

      Thanks for your comment Maria!

      I know what you mean by it taking a while to process information. It's like it happens in slow motion. You know how to react as soon as you're outside of the situation. But in the moment you're not quite sure.

      Thank you for reading and sharing.

      January 3, 2012
  3. said:

    This is great insight for us extroverts to understand the other side. Being married to an introvert, I’m often guilty of pushing him to situations/events/gatherings that feel normal for me. I am praying to become more respectful toward him,and appreciate his perspective more. Thanks for your post, it is a blessing to helP me understand him better, as he’s not one to write it out.

    The statements at the beginning are especially thought provoking and help me see the similarities too. I actually feel that way at times too. Reminds me how wonderfully complex each person is.

    January 8, 2012
  4. said:

    I'm also an Introvert and the hardest thing for me is speaking to others and letting them see me, I'm also an artist and have been working on with Gods help to break out of the discreet mode and the lost child role I played for so long due to being in a dysfunctional family. That just made it evn more challenging for me to speak more. I feel more comfortable speaking through chats, and emails but whenever it comes to my face being seen, thats when i get a bit unconfortable, why? because I don't know what others perception of me is when they see me and I also know that how you see yourself is how others will see you. and well…….I've had some issues with seeing myself as a confident person whos willing and determined, but little by little God has been helping me see myself with more beauty, strength and acceptance of ones self. I'm also looking for a part-time work at home job I can do, so as to not only save on travel cost to work but also to be in the comfort of my home basically.

    I just am always quiet and feel out of place and awkward when around others, I also by noticing how much I'm writing hehehe that I always have a lot to say when saying it on comments and such, I even have my own blog on my website that has all the things I want to share with others and talk about that I can't seem to find to speak to about offline. In some way though it's ok because I've been speaking to God about them and also writing about it in journals and a little bit on my blog. Ok obviously this has nothing to do with whats being spoken about, heheheh, sorry guys. I guess I just wanted to be heard.

    January 27, 2012
    • aparchedsoul said:

      Hi Octavia,

      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I know what you mean. Sometimes we want to experience the world without having to be there to represent our ideas. But you\’re absolutely right that being uncomfortable with others is a sign we\’re uncomfortable with ourselves. And that\’s my struggle as well.

      Thanks again. By the way, I looked at your site and you have some really nice paintings. Keep it up.

      -Grayson

      January 27, 2012
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  7. themoomin said:

    I love this!

    I spent many years of my youth thinking I was just an oddball. Often being called a recluse, a hermit, or just plain antisocial. In secondary school, I had grades knocked off because I didn’t speak, but had a great understanding of the subject and performed well on tests, say what?!!?! I have a tiny handful of very close friends, rarely go out to meet new people, and when I need to go out of my place of peace (home), I feel agitated. Talking to people is not difficult, but oh so exhausting. It doesn’t stop there, too much sensory stimulation also drains me (for example when the gardeners are out using leaf blowers for over an hour, or too much light/flashing noises). Also true for the phone calls, I’d rather let the person leave a message, and I return the call when I’m ready to speak.
    My mind and thought patterns work far better through words/fingertips than what I plan over and over again in my head before verbalizing what I want to say (only for it to come out as a jumble). This is why I like writing so much. It’s unfortunate that many people see introverts recharging as depressed people. They often think that they need saving. This is so not true.
    I secretly knew I was introverted in my late teens/early twenties, but only now, in my thirties am I really discovering the true depth of my introversion, and guess what? I’m none of the above, I’m just an introvert! It does make friendships/relationships difficult at times though, and I’ve turned to emailing/writing notes to my partner with things I want to say when they are difficult for me to verbalize them. He’s also just gotten used to me just simply shutting down when I am mentally and emotionally drained… often to the point where I can no longer speak. Initially, he used to take these things personally, but now, he understands I just need to recharge to get back to my awesome self :). One of the worst things being an introvert, as you know, is being called SHY! Oh, and when another person asks if you’re all right when you need recharge time…
    Hoorah for self-discovery.

    January 27, 2014

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